Thursday, December 29, 2011
Making decisions is something we do all day everyday but sometimes an important choice come along and stops us in our tracks. For some inexplicable reason we get stuck and can’t make up our minds and we get all panicky, nervous, indecisive and afraid. No matter what we do, we can’t summon the strength or determination to make that all important decision.
The first question we must ask ourselves is what is it that we are afraid of? Is it the possible outcome of the decision? This is usually the culprit and we fear it because we fear the change it may bring. Many of us are afraid of change even if the outcome is better than the way things are now. But mostly our fear stems from dreading the unknown; even if our present circumstances are bad.
Sooner or later we are going to have to face our fear and take risks in life. That is how the normal young adult learns and grows in self confidence. It doesn’t matter how old we are now, it’s never too late to make a positive change or adjustment in way of thinking, acting and reacting to life’s many changes and the many life altering decisions we will inevitably face. Remember what I tried to convey to you about positive thinking. Go back in the archives and read it again and practice the principles that worked so well for me. In the mean time, make the most important decision first and give yourself some credit for taking such a huge step. Or if this is just too overwhelming for you, make a series of smaller ones and with each triumph watch your confidence grow. Soon you will be ready to tackle the bigger decisions. But for goodness sake, don’t procrastinate. The longer you put it off the more bad things will happen in meantime and soon you will be buried in crap and back to square one.
Whatever you do to finally get these major decisions made, the rewards you get will greatly outweigh any change that may or may not take place in your life. And any change that happens is probably for the best anyway and you will see the rewards not only to self esteem, worth, image and confidence, but in ways you cannot now even dream of or fathom.
Tuesday, December 27, 2011
Letting GoTo “let go” does not mean to stop caring, it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To “let go” is not to cut myself off, it is the realization that I can’t control another.
To “let go” is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.
To “let go” is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hand.
To “let go” is not to change or blame another, it is to make the most of myself.
To “let go” is not to care for, but to care about.
To “let go” is not to be in the middle of arranging all the outcomes but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
To “let go” is not to deny but to accept.
To “let go” is not to nag, scold, or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them.
To “let go” is not to adjust everything to my own desires but to take each day as it comes, and to cherish myself in it.
To “let go” is not to critize and regulate anybody but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To “let go” is not to regret the past, but to grow and to live for today.
TO LET GO IS TO FEAR LESS AND LOVE MORE
These are the instructions on how to let go. Perhaps it is letting go of a rebellious child or a burden of sorrow, losing a loved one or learning to live with heartache which we just cannot let go of. Read this over. Study it…..and you will find letting go of your load will allow your spirit to soar.
For me one of the most gentle and beautiful reminders of letting go is the butterfly…hold it too tight and we risk damaging their delicate wings or fatally crushing them
Saturday, December 24, 2011
After you do accomplish catching up on your important paperwork, phone calls and correspondence, you will feel like the weight of the world has been lifted from your shoulders. The boost to your self esteem and confidence is another benefit. So make the decision to get your affairs in order and with whatever kind of help you need to start with one thing and keep on going until everything is done. It may seem like an insurmountable task right now but if you sort everything out into smaller piles it will be easier to tackle. Remember this phrase; “first things first, one thing at a time” and you’ll do fine. Use it as your mantra if you have to, whatever it takes to just get started. That is the hardest part of overcoming procrastination.
Next time we’ll talk about making decisions. Sometimes this can be a daunting task as well. Especially if you fear change for sometimes a decision involves change. But I’ll be here to help you work through it and give you the advice I’ve learned from my own life experiences.
(to be continued)
Thursday, December 22, 2011
Sometimes making decisions can be so difficult that we keep putting it off indefinitely. And this can be devastating in some incidences, especially if you have an important decision to make. Sometimes just the thought of having to make up one’s mind is so stressful; that you may find yourself procrastinating until something bad or unforeseen happens. This may only reinforce your fear of decision making in the future thus creating a viscous cycle of not resolving problems and procrastinating for solutions.
There is probably enough your mind that you really don’t need to add to another problem to your life. Then there are those of who are, for whatever reason, allergic to making phone calls. Sometimes an email just won’t do and you MUST speak to someone on the phone. But you are frozen with a fear you can’t put your finger on. You must find the strength deep within yourself to take care of these matters. Practice making calls with a friend present for moral support. Start small and work your way up to the more challenging tasks.
(to be continued)
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
Alright, that idea didn’t work out. It’s hard to believe that not one follower has a mind of his/her own to ask me a question. But if I must lead you all like sheep then so be it. My next topic will be about making decisions and overcoming procrastination.
My best friend and attendant and facing one the most difficult decisions we face in our lives, whether or not to end a long term relationship she finally realizes is too unhealthy to be a part of. She told me what happened this morning with so much anguish on her face my heart went out to her. Her story brought back painful memories of my own. By the time she was finished with her story, I had relived my dark, agonizing experience and told Michelle if anyone could understand it would be me. She solemnly agreed.
To be continued
Tuesday, December 13, 2011
I feel as though I have no more advice to give you after everything I’ve written about. So, I’ve been thinking why don’t you shoot me some questions in the form of comments and I’ll answer them in the order I receive them?
This way I won’t feel useless and obligated to write about something useless or just to hear myself vent and you will be getting some useful information again. I will feel better knowing that I am fulfilling my mission again. So how ‘bout it folks?
Saturday, December 10, 2011
I’d like to introduce you to a book a found on modelmayhem that depicts strong women overcoming seemingly insurmountable odds. It’s called “Portraits of Eve Women of Color Share Their Body/Soul Conversations” photographs by Herb Way. It’s really a lovely a book and a sample can be viewed at www. portraits—of-eve.com . The author wanted to capture each woman in her naturally nude state, artfully done, without the material trappings of clothing or jewelry. Each woman tells her own story in her own words and the photos may be nude but they are beautiful, non-erotic, artistic representations of each woman as she is naturally; without shame or pride, guilt or conceit. I bought a copy of the e-book and I highly recommend the hard cover copy as well.
Sunday, December 4, 2011
Have you ever posted a thread on a forum on website you are a member of? Well, I’ve done that on model mayhem and the thread has been going since November 19th. It’s so much fun to get so many responses from people and get to look to at so many portfolios and have that many chances to find gems of inspiration, diamonds in the rough to get ideas from and gold medal examples of great makeup ideas. Plus, there’s the fringe benefit of getting those comments on my pictures and even a list or two and last but certainly not least new friends, acquaintances and possible people to work with.
Yes, I’ve been hanging out on model mayhem quite a bit; every time I turn my computer on I go there first. It seems I’ve become addicted to the website and to the dream of a becoming a model. There are other things I need to do. Try not to get yourself hooked on one site unless it’s something healthy. If you want to check out my portfolio, go to www.modelmayhem.com/lamb1st